What to read after Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.??

Winner of four national book awards! Praised by a "Who's Who" of preeminent experts!

This bestselling guide put Adult ADHD and Relationships on the map — and remains a must-read today.

Adults with ADHD, their partners and other loved ones, and professionals will find comprehensive understanding of symptoms, emotional impact, and evidence-based treatment strategies.

Endorsements from Respected Experts:

"I recommend it highly to all couples whose troubles seem incomprehensible, and for all couples therapists it should be required reading to help them distinguish between ordinary conflict and the roller coaster effect of this syndrome."

—Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.

"Insightful, helpful, witty, and very practical. This book can change your life."

—Daniel Amen, MD

"There is no better book that addresses such relationship difficulties and with such sensitivity to the complex issues inherent in them. Thank you, Gina, for writing such a useful book."

—Russell A. Barkley, PhD

"Gina Pera has written a stunning book that should be a must-read for all couples where one or both partners have Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder."

—Anthony Rostain, MD

About this Groundbreaking Book:

ADHD is a highly variable syndrome. It affects individuals, not clones.

This pioneering guide has helped thousands of readers understand how ADHD affects them. 

Gina Pera expertly guides you in making sense of your own Adult ADHD Roller Coaster, teaching you to:

—View ADHD through your personal lens

—Realize how later-in-life diagnosis creates additional issues

—Distinguish poor coping responses from symptoms that likely will respond to medication

—Heal poor coping responses and dysfunctional interaction cycles

—Implement supports to completing routine tasks and reaching goals 

—Appreciate how ADHD can also negatively affect the spouses and other loved ones

—Delve into "denial's" dual nature — physiological and psychological — and reach through it

—Adopt proven approaches that remain extremely rare in clinical settings, especially couple therapy

The science has been clear since 1994, when Adult ADHD was declared a medical diagnosis. 

Still, even in 2023, the public and professionals alike harbor misconceptions. As a result, millions suffer needlessly. I

Individuals, couples, and families can't understand why their lives together are so hard—often despite many attempts at therapy.

The simple truth is: Everyone knows someone with adult ADHD. Yet we often misattribute the symptoms to anxiety, depression, or even laziness, selfishness, “addictive personality,” or moodiness. 

Some assume that ADHD means little boys with ants in their pants. In fact, childhood hyperactivity goes "underground" as the person matures, resulting in an internally, mentally restless state.

Meticulously researched and written by Gina Pera, this book helps you recognize the behaviors where you least expect them with:

—Explanations from highly respected experts

—Research excerpts and citations

—Plenty of real-life details

—Empathy and compassion for everyone affected by Adult ADHD

—Clear guidance on proven treatment options and practical solutions.

The revolutionary message is one of hope for millions of people—and a joyous opportunity for a better life!

About the Author

Gina Pera is an internationally respected author, speaker, and educator on Adult ADHD, especially as it affects relationships. For 22 years, she has researched and written about Adult ADHD while also passionately advocating for better treatment standards and teaching consumers to self-advocate.

She wrote two highly praised books and the first-ever chapter on couple-therapy in the leading ADHD clinical guide (edited by Russell Barkley, PhD).

Since 2008, she's reported major original stories at her award-winning blog (the first and longest-running website on Adult ADHD): ADHDRollerCoaster.org

Her first book, Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?, broke new ground and won four book awards. It has been translated into Turkish and Spanish.

Her second book (with psychologist Arthur Robin) is Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions. It presents the first therapeutic model for helping these couples. It is a flexible approach based on strategies that research has proven to work for Adult ADHD and for couple therapy.

Known as an innovative researcher and engaging speaker, Gina has long provided education and support for the ADHD community. She has led workshops internationally and facilitates Adult ADHD discussion groups in Silicon Valley as well as an international online group for the partners of adults with ADHD.

Previously, Gina was an award-winning newspaper and magazine reporter and editor.

She currently offers online courses and Zoom group support, covering pre-diagnosis through optimizing sleep and medication: ginapera.adhdsuccesstraining.com

Her blog: ADHDRollerCoaster.org

From the Author:

Your experience of ADHD might not look like:

—Your friend's ADHD

—Your parent's or siblings' ADHD

—That blogger's or podcaster's ADHD

—Any stereotypes about ADHD

I wrote this book to help everyone affected by Adult ADHD — the adults themselves, their partners and other loved ones, and professionals. When you know what you are dealing with, you have a better chance of creating positive change.

The mental health field has pockets of ADHD knowledge—and more pockets of misdiagnosis and misdirection. Consumers must self-educate lest they be led down the wrong path. (Especially with medications.)

When couples learn about ADHD and work as a team to address misinterpretations and dysfunctional interaction cycles, life typically improve dramatically. 

Even when relationships do not continue, healing takes place. Lessons are learned about digging deep into the human capacity for strength, love, and compassion —and learning new ideas. 

I sincerely wish that you find this guide helpful, even life-changing, and that it might inspire you to share your knowledge with others. Thank you for reading.

Gina Pera